"Makoyouidiot" (makaan12)
01/29/2014 at 16:48 • Filed to: None
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"Makoyouidiot" (makaan12)
01/29/2014 at 16:48 • Filed to: None | 1
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Warning: life issues to follow, here is the most gorgeous car in the world as payment...
Anyway. After my mother in law's husband went insane and left her, I invited her to live with us because the bank foreclosed on her house. Things have been alright for a while, and it's great that my mom doesn't have to watch my son every day now. But. Recently, my wife and and her mother have started fighting. A lot. And the gaps between are tense silences that are broken only by snide remarks. They both seem to be acting like children. I dunno what to do, because they are both in the wrong most of the time, but I feel like I should do something as the man of the house.
puddler
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 16:51 |
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you've got 2 choices. get some popcorn & fuel the fire, or toss 'em each a pillow & have 'em fight to the death.
Drsweetdik
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 16:52 |
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Mother-in-law has to go. That's all that is to it.
Stupidru
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 16:52 |
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Can you tell your MIL that it's time to get her own apartment?
505Turbeaux
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 16:53 |
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well. not a great situation for the kiddo. Though it affects you I think all you need to do is say...you are a daughter, you are her mother, grow up and work this shit out because it isnt good for the kid, or keep it and the snide comments out of the house. If that doesnt happen then you need to take it to the next level which I wouldnt be sure about yet.
Leadbull
> puddler
01/29/2014 at 16:53 |
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Cage matches solve everything.
Doge_Supreme drives a BRZ
> Stupidru
01/29/2014 at 16:54 |
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This seems to be the best solution in a situation that probably has no safe way out.
ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable)
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 16:55 |
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You'll be wrong no matter what you do.
Build yourself a shed garage doghouse, if you don't have one already.
RazoE
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 16:55 |
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Your wife comes first. No buts about it.
Casper
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 16:56 |
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I'm really direct. I would tell the mother in law to either shut up and make peace or get out. The wife wins, she is the source of the sex (I assume).
JACU - I've got bonifides.
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 17:00 |
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KB Garage
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 17:01 |
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Goodbye mother in law.
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JACU - I've got bonifides.
> RazoE
01/29/2014 at 17:03 |
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What he said!
RamblinRover Luxury-Yacht
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 17:18 |
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*Insert discredited "Chinese pictograph for conflict is two women under one roof" snideness here*
I'm not sure there's an easy solution, but it may be best for MiL to get some breathing room. Doesn't really matter who's most often in the right. Now, if they were Korean or one of several other cultures, MiL stays in the house and is empress until wife has borne a male heir, then MiL is to follow orders of wife, not give them.
jlmounce
> RazoE
01/29/2014 at 17:25 |
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It's probably natural that this would happen. Your mother in law is used to being your wifes mother. That role has been reversed now that she's not the woman of the house.
In all things you need to think about your relationship with your wife. Talk with her about what needs to be done, then implement.
Vizzini
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 17:29 |
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Time for MiL to get her own place, even if it is nearby. It is hard for adult children to live with a parent, and mother/daughter relationships seem to suffer the worst. We lived across the street from my in-laws for ten years, but there was a time early on where my wife and her mom had to set some ground rules because they were starting to get on each other's nerves (issues included her barging into our house unannounced or offering unsolicited opinions about how we lived our daily lives, and generally acting like the parent of a teenager my wife no longer was). I can only imagine being under the same roof is much more difficult. Set some boundaries, starting with a new living space for dear MiL.
avens
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 17:35 |
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Pretty much depends on if you want your house to be the stereotypical family with a 80 year old guest or not.
Matt Brown
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 17:50 |
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I hear great things about divorce.
TwoFortified
> JACU - I've got bonifides.
01/29/2014 at 18:14 |
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"What could go wrong?"
I dunno, the check I'd write to buy them could bounce. $100 for a foam bat? Are they made from ostrich down or something like that?
M54B30
> Makoyouidiot
01/29/2014 at 18:59 |
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It's time to sit your MIL down and say it's been great but it's not healthy for anyone involved at this point. I'm sure she's already sensing it.
Hopefully she has some kind of income, otherwise the water gets super muddy. Either way, you need to do it and do it ASAP. These family issues have a nasty tendency to escalate quickly.
deekster_caddy
> Doge_Supreme drives a BRZ
01/29/2014 at 21:49 |
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This! My mother in law is a very needy person and would like nothing better than to move in with us. She can't afford a "nice place" and has been from crappy apt to crappy apt. My wife recognizes how bad her living with us would be for all of us long term. She's been slowly moving closer and closer to our house...
In the end, we bought a condo about a mile from our house, and we are MIL's landlords now. Her rent _almost_ covers the mortgage and bills associated with the condo, so we are making a very small investment. We can actually fix the things that are broken. It's the best arrangement we could come up with and it's working well so far. Worst case scenario, we are making an almost free investment into a condo.